I fail to understand what that word means or stands for. Of course I am aware of all the meanings and synonyms we do attach to it. The first meaning that comes up when I type the word on Google says, “having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women, especially delicacy and prettiness.” I can agree with the first part of this sentence, but the second? That is sheer bullshit if you ask me.
Delicate and pretty are not the words I want to be associated with. Not anymore. I am made of much more. A woman is made of much more. It is only sad that after all these years, we could not even change what a simple word like feminine stands for, let alone what women stand for in general. We are not secondary beings that are here to make the world look pretty and support our ‘better halves’! I have nothing against men. Not at all. My fight is only to be who I want to be and not being asked questions about it.
All these years, I have been a called a ‘rebel’ only because I made simple points that I thought were reasonable. Like when my mom would tell me to wash the dishes and I’d simply ask if my brother could do it! My mother would get furious and tell me that it was I, who was supposed to. Things as simple as these have only puzzled me! “Sit like a lady!” “Dress up like a lady!”, “Talk like a lady!” which implies you rather not talk.
If this is all feminine is supposed to be and I am supposed to be, I quit. I am and I will be, anything. I will wash the dishes, not because I am a woman and I am supposed to, but because I should. Just like my brother should too.
Labels in focus-
I first came across this label across Instagram and was awed by their design sensibility. Little did I know that it would come so close to my heart. Rini Bankhwal, the founder of the label, is a fierce young lady. She is strong headed and ambitious and I knew that when I first had a word with her. Unlike other people, she made sense. A lot of sense.
While discussing a story for our collaboration she gave me the freedom to find my tribe with Tribana. Her jewelry is for everyone. It is the way you see it, accept it and love it. I found her pieces to be like powerful weapons. Wherever you come from, her pieces will appeal to you.
With my take on her ‘find your tribe’ campaign, I wanted to come out and say that it is difficult for me to understand why a piece of jewelry is considered feminine. Yes, the same feminine we just talked about. If I wear bangles, does that make me a dainty young lady? What if I tell you, they don’t. It doesn’t have to be like that. My jewelry, my clothes, my body, talk nothing of who I am inside.
“I know your clothes are for men but do we care about that anymore?” That’s what I wrote in my mail to Vikram, the young and very talented brain behind the label. He, without any question, came on board for the story. Vikram started because he believed that men should come out of their cocoons and dress up as they wanted, as many times as they wanted. “Gone are the days of typical black suits that worked for years!”, he said and how I agree to that. His designs are a breath of fresh air.
I am all about gender neutrality and I do not believe that a particular garment is only meant for men or women. If you want to and you can, go ahead! I have a thing for pant suits and if I had to choose what I could wear every single day of my life, pant suits have to be it. Definitely!
This photo-story is just about all of that. I am anything, but feminine.
Pant suit: Vikram Bajaj, find more on Vikram Bajaj Design
Jewelry : Tribana, find more on Tribana.in
Photography by Karanvir aka Einsjordan.